Are you asking for Trouble if you Send your Food Back in a Restaurant – No

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Had there been an “it depends” choice for voting, it would likely have been the winner of this round.

Sending food back to the kitchen in a restaurant probably isn’t going to be a major issue if one decides to put aggravation aside and exercise a bit of common courtesy. Unless the meal is being eaten in a rather small family restaurant, it’s probable that the server is not the “chief cook and bottle washer” – so, the tone one takes with his or her server will likely make all the difference in the world as to how the food is handled once it reaches the kitchen on it’s return voyage. 

Having worked in food service for the better portion of my younger years, I know whereof I speak.

A rude customer who quickly develops an attitude as his food is being presented, angrily demanding that it be returned and prepared to his liking, is not going to motivate his server to look out for the well being of his plate once it reaches the kitchen. The server will likely inform anyone who cares to listen, primarily the chef, and that’s the one person said customer would be wise not to anger.

On the other hand, a polite customer who is clearly disappointed with how his food has been prepared, but requests in a kind manner – perhaps apologizing for the inconvenience to the server and the chef – that his food be returned and prepared to his liking, is almost always going to be treated with kindness in return. Such an attitude will usually be conveyed to the chef, or no fuss at all will be made about the return. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said “There is no beautifier of complexion, or form, or behavior, like the wish to scatter joy and not pain around us. ‘Tis good to give a stranger a meal, or a night’s lodging. ‘Tis better to be hospitable to his good meaning and thought, and give courage to a companion. We must be as courteous to a man as we are to a picture, which we are willing to give the advantage of a good light.”

It would seem one might have better things to do in life than to risk “scattering pain” by rudely making demands of others. Why not give the benefit of the doubt to the one who may have delivered the meal and request kindly that the issue be remedied?